It’s September! Break out the fuzzy blankets, leggings, and sweaters. Who’s with me?!
This month seems to always put people in a good mood. Despite it typically being the month most of us go back to school, September marks the first feelings of fall and there’s something so great about that. I’ve been scoping for new decor pieces and cold weather outfits hoping a chilly day will eventually happen. The 60 degree temps are what I live for.
The best way to welcome this season is through a few spooky TV shows and a cup of your favorite fall flavors. Pumpkin spice lattes and caramel apple ciders?! Literally, the best beverages to sip on while watching an episode of AHS. I’m lighting my candles and creating an area cozy enough to lay in all day. That is seriously all I’ve been doing.
So how are you guys celebrating this season change?! Share your Fall bucket list below or what you’ve been up to – see ya in my next post!
I’ve always struggled with finding ways to nicely say “no thank you”. And that sounds so dramatic to say. But as a young, millennial, female entrepreneur, there are more than enough reasons to justify why I feel the way I do. Especially in this point in time where the rights and equality of others are being recognized and yet continue to be manipulated.
“Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember you teach people how to treat you..”
Truthfully, it hasn’t been easy to overcome the fear of saying no. Yes, I said fear. I say this because in my case it stems from intimidation, the unknown, and the willingness to make someone else comfortable instead of myself. Whatever your case may be, I wanted to go through some of the ways I’ve been able to conquer this issue and tips that could help you too!
You Are The Priority
One of the reasons I felt so guilty for saying no was because I believed other people mattered more than I did. I would say yes to picking up extra shifts even though I knew I was stressed and overworked. I went out more often, spent money I didn’t have, and accepted unhealthy habits because I just didn’t feel confident enough to say no.
They’ll Get Over It
There’s always going to be a reason for saying no. It’s not just something we say for fun. It’s a word that lets others know “that’s not okay”, “I don’t like that”, or “I don’t want to do that”. It’s not easy and it’s not something we necessarily want to say but it’s empowering and allows you to make decisions. If someone does not respect a no or refuses to accept it, that’s their problem. Majority of the time the individuals who do that are the people whom you’d be better off without anyway.
“Life Tip: Do you”
You Are Not The Problem
In previous situations, I’ve been called a lot of different things for standing my ground on my no’s. But the truth is, I’m not the problem and neither are you. Stop blaming yourself for choosing an unpopular response. Whatever your reasoning is, I’m sure it’s a good one. Take the time to remember and reflect upon your values, morals, and goals. Did saying no keep you aligned with your overall plan? I know that’s hard to maybe understand over the internet but if you really think about it – our choices today truly reflect the things that happen to us tomorrow. So, choose your yes’ and no’s wisely.
The long road of deployment is soon coming to an end and I’m more ready than ever to have the Hubs home for good. We’re at the half way mark and I wanted to make sure I was documenting these feelings. Definitely a bit excited but more anxious if anything to get our lives back to normal.
“Distance teaches us to appreciate the days that we are able to spend together and distance teaches us the definition of patience – It is a reminder that every moment together is special, and every second together should be cherished”
Six months ago I was telling myself that I could never handle my husband being gone for months on end. I relied on him for nearly everything. We relied on each other. If I was having a bad day at work I knew coming home to him would make it all better. If I forgot to let the dogs out in the morning, he was there to do it for me. If one of us felt sick the other was there to comfort and cuddle.
Once deployment started I assumed so much would change. I thought we’d lose being a team and quickly become two different people. I was surprised to find out we’d definitely drift but for the better. My expectations were incredibly skewed. Without my husband being home, I’ve learned to be more independent. I’ve had to teach myself how to do the larger chores at home like mowing the lawn, checking the fuse box when the power goes out, taking all the cars to get maintenance, and of course killing all the spiders that decide to creep in the bedroom.
“One day closer and one day stronger”
If anything, deployment has made our love grow stronger and I’ll forever be thankful for that. Undoubtedly, everything happens for a reason so I’m sure there’s a bigger plan in store for us someday or somehow. We’ll just have to wait and see what that is come January.