It’s Okay To Say No – How To Stand Your Ground

I’ve always struggled with finding ways to nicely say “no thank you”. And that sounds so dramatic to say. But as a young, millennial, female entrepreneur, there are more than enough reasons to justify why I feel the way I do. Especially in this point in time where the rights and equality of others are being recognized and yet continue to be manipulated.

“Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember you teach people how to treat you..”

Truthfully, it hasn’t been easy to overcome the fear of saying no. Yes, I said fear. I say this because in my case it stems from intimidation, the unknown, and the willingness to make someone else comfortable instead of myself. Whatever your case may be, I wanted to go through some of the ways I’ve been able to conquer this issue and tips that could help you too!

You Are The Priority

One of the reasons I felt so guilty for saying no was because I believed other people mattered more than I did. I would say yes to picking up extra shifts even though I knew I was stressed and overworked. I went out more often, spent money I didn’t have, and accepted unhealthy habits because I just didn’t feel confident enough to say no.

They’ll Get Over It

There’s always going to be a reason for saying no. It’s not just something we say for fun. It’s a word that lets others know “that’s not okay”, “I don’t like that”, or “I don’t want to do that”. It’s not easy and it’s not something we necessarily want to say but it’s empowering and allows you to make decisions. If someone does not respect a no or refuses to accept it, that’s their problem. Majority of the time the individuals who do that are the people whom you’d be better off without anyway.

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You Are Not The Problem

In previous situations, I’ve been called a lot of different things for standing my ground on my no’s. But the truth is, I’m not the problem and neither are you. Stop blaming yourself for choosing an unpopular response. Whatever your reasoning is, I’m sure it’s a good one. Take the time to remember and reflect upon your values, morals, and goals. Did saying no keep you aligned with your overall plan? I know that’s hard to maybe understand over the internet but if you really think about it – our choices today truly reflect the things that happen to us tomorrow. So, choose your yes’ and no’s wisely.

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Relaxing Night Out

On a daily basis I spend pretty much all of my time working. Working at work, working on the blog, working on maintaining my house and health. However, the little free time I can spare I typically spend doing the things I love with the people I love. Which includes my wonderful puppies!

This blog post is just a glimpse inside of my relaxing night out with my adorable pug-shitzu mix. We walked the lake by my home and soaked in whatever was left of the evening before the sun set. Lately, I’ve come to appreciate nights like that.

So what’s your favorite way to relax and let go? Tell me about busy days and what you may do to unwind after them – can’t wait to connect with you!

30 Days Of Self Improvement

So far, there’s been a few days this season where I just feel lost. Not sure what to do and can’t necessarily get myself out of bed. But I’m not okay with that. I want to do more this summer and with my husband deployed, now is the perfect time. This blog post will feature a few ideas to boost your self-improvement and mood. It’s also geared towards keeping busy and staying productive. It’s the end of July people, the clock is definitely clicking.

Start a fitness plan. 

Find a new coffee shop and study, work, or create something.

Read a book from a genre you normally wouldn’t lean towards.

Set your alarm an hour earlier than normal.

Watch the sunrise. 

Watch the sunset.

Drive 20 miles outside of your city to a unfamiliar place. 

Go see a movie with an old friend.

Cut your hair.

Take a long walk without social media, texting, or phone calls.

Do something nice for someone else. 

Make a vision board.

Declutter and deep clean your space. 

Write down what you want to accomplish in the next year.

Work on your professional resume. 

Learn about something new.

Eat breakfast outside. 

Try meditation.

Go the entire day without complaining. 

Make a new “feel good” Spotify playlist.

Donate your clothes to a shelter in need, thrift store, or friend. 

Buy yourself flowers.

Start planning your dream vacay. 

Don’t buy anything for 24 hours.

Go to bed early.

Clean out your email inbox.

Stretch your night routine and pamper yourself. 

Spend a day trying out photography.

Sign up for a non-credit/credit course at your local college or recreational center.

Volunteer at an animal shelter.