Buying A House At 22

I have so many things I want to say in this blog post. Let’s just start with the obvious…my husband and I bought our first home at the ages of 22! Like what?! Yes, it’s a thing and it’s most definitely possible. I’m here to tell you how we did it!

A Dream

Throughout my husband and I’s relationship, we struggled financially. We went from living with my mother-in-law to a one bedroom apartment, a 500 sq ft studio, to a teeny tiny rental home. It’s been an uphill battle but our goal throughout those hard times remained the same – we wanted to be successful, independent, and happy. Despite our less than perfect living situations, we continued to make our future a priority. We knew what we wanted.

Working Hard

We recently got our big breaks a little over a year ago when we both landed jobs that paid well. Each of us probably interviewed a handful of times every week until we finally found companies worth wild. I’d like to point out too that throughout the whole “finding new jobs” process, we didn’t settle. We were offered positions at companies that were only commissioned based or positions that paid out less than what we knew we were worth. Looking back now, those days taught me important lessons about business and communication that I now value tremendously.

The Military

I should mention we would never be where we are now without my husband’s time in the Army. Since deploying this past April, we’ve had the opportunity to replenish our savings accounts and qualify for the VA loan.

My husband is actually an Army reservist when he’s in Illinois but since his deployment he’s been considered active for the last 10 months. To get the VA loan (at least from my understanding) you must have either 90 days of active duty service or 6 years as a reservist. Deployment turned into a positive real quick after we learned those rules. If the hubs never got deployed, we wouldn’t have been able to purchase until after his reserves contract ended. So confusing I know, stay with me here

Closing In Under 30 Days

Thanks to our amazing, and I mean amazing, home loan officers, attorneys, and realtors we were able to close on our first home in less than a month! If you know anything about the home buying process then you know this is very uncommon. Truthfully, it was not simple. I was taking phone calls, faxing, emailing and signing papers 24/7. If you’re thinking of closing on a house in the amount of time we did, be prepared to be available at any given moment!

In addition to the regular home-buying paperwork we needed to complete, I also had the job of getting these papers to my husband who (as I’m writing this) is still out of the country!

We Stopped Listening To Others

This sounds terrible to type but we stopped listening to the opinions of others in the first week of the process. There was a large amount of individuals who felt the need to weigh in on our finances and decisions. They expected the worst out of us. Word of advice, choose to listen carefully when someone else decides to judge your actions. Ultimately, it’s not, nor will it ever be their place to live in.

I know this post was all over the place! I just wanted to share some of the things I went through personally during this whole thing and thought maybe it would help one of you! If you’ve gone through or are going through this process feel free to leave a comment below sharing your experience! I’d love to hear how your story differs from my own!

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Tips For A Long Distance Relationship

Being a military wife has taught me a lot of things. It’s taught me how to be patient, be polite, be strong, and most of all has taught me how to love someone no matter the circumstances. My husband has been gone for a little over 7 months and it’s been one of the hardest things we’ve ever gone through both individually and as a couple. But in the midst of all the unpredictable craziness, we still find the time to show we care about one another.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

This post is going to be a mixture of a lot of things but mainly how we’ve conquered a long distance relationship and how you can too! Keep reading if you’re interested…

My husband was deployed officially on April 18th, 2017 but has really been on and off away since January of 2017. Deployment was unexpected for him and truly came as a surprise. My husband is Army Reserves meaning he lives a pretty normal and routine life outside of the military – doesn’t work on a base, we aren’t “stationed” anywhere, and does one weekend a month in uniform. If he’s called for a deployment, he goes but it was never a concern of ours up until this year.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

During his time away from home, we’ve been fortunate enough to get a few chances to see each other. His unit has been very flexible with leave time and making sure families get to see their service members. It’s been a huge help considering when he left, I thought I wouldn’t see him for that whole duration of time. I’d say we definitely got lucky with that.

Here are a few of the tips and tricks I’ve learned throughout this experience that may be helpful to some of you!

Communication is key. If you won’t be able to talk or text during a certain day, time, whatever…let your partner know. Before my husband goes into “work” he try’s to let me know ahead of time so I’m not bothering him during those hours. It’s convenient for both of us.

Plan vacations and time together. This will be different for each person because all situations are unique. However, if you can plan events or vacations to go on, do it. The time away can be so much easier to endure if you have a date to look forward to. I’ve found comfort in hard days knowing there are only a few weeks left until we meet again.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

Lean on family and friends, keep yourself busy when you’re not around your partner! This is so crucial! Staying at home everyday, will not help time move faster so get outside and make the best of the situation you’re in.

Send care packages and special items! Celebrate Holidays with each other through a gift exchange via snail mail. Everyone loves to get a surprise from their special someone! Christmas is coming and I know I’ll for sure be sending my hubby a few things he’s been wanting. FYI – there are a ton of easy ideas on Pinterest for decorating the inside of a care package!

These were just a few of the many things that have helped me through this journey. Share some of your experiences and tips in the comments! I’d love to hear some of the ways you all cope with someone you love being gone!

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Easy Ways To Relieve Stress

Woahhhh this work week has me all types of messed up. Life has been so hectic and I’ve been having a lot going on around me. All of this commotion makes it difficult to stay focused and motivated. There have definitely been more than a few times where I just wanted to give up. Anyone else?

Well, fear not because although we all have those days we also have ways to combat them and offset the stress! I’ve come up with 5 ways to remove stress from your life in a variety of different situations. Join me in this blog post so we can all be stress free together!

Clean It Out 

Alright, stay with me here. Cleaning a space reduces the clutter from your life and will leave you feeling refreshed. Start with small places like your car, closet, or bedroom. Then, move on to the rest of your home or spend time really organizing the areas you just cleaned. Trust me, this helps!

Read Or Write 

Expanding your creative thoughts will help relieve some of that stress build up. It’s a mind aid to just let everything go in the comfort of a good book or journal. Spend sometime at a local coffee shop to dial into a better, more relaxed, environment. Let the creative juices flow! What’s been your recent favorite read?

Drive

Sometimes one of the best ways I deal with stress is to just take a lot of time for myself. There’s nothing wrong with that! I do this frequently by hopping in my car and throwing on some tunes. The trip doesn’t stop until I do. The possibilities are quite endless. A drive can mean a few blocks, miles, or hours. So long as your gas budget allows!

Gain A Green Thumb

I’ve recently began filling my little home with plants. It gives me something to plan for every day and makes my space more welcoming. There’s something wonderful about adding greenery to a lived in area! The process of potting, watering, and watching your new babies grow will give you a new distraction. Guaranteed, the tension will melt away with a succulent or two.

Bubble Bath It Up

Nothing says relaxation more than bubbles. After a long hard day, the only thing I want is a warm bath. Light a couple candles, make a hot camomile tea, and slide on into the tub. This is typically the time of the day where I shut down my electronics and spend some much-needed me time. I can’t be bothered when I’m soaking away the stress.

There are plenty of great bath products out there but some of my favorites come from LUSH. Their bath bombs make me feel like a deserving princess worthy of nothing but sparkles and scents that resemble fresh picked roses or clean linens. If that’s not your thing, try a moisturizing body conditioner or scrub. Pampering myself helps leave the troublesome thoughts “down the drain“. See what I did there?